Why Do I Feel So Angry?
Let’s talk about:
The causes of anger.
Why anger is normal.
Where anger comes from.
Anger often caused by something external to you.
Anger so often stems from deep disappointment and injustice.
Maybe something bad, something outside of your control has happened to you, and it makes you feel weak.
You might feel completely misunderstood. Or like the world is against you.
You might have faced bullying, abuse, depression, or any number of experiences that could make you feel angry, hurt, or hopeless.
Life may seem wildly unfair. Our dreams seem impossible to reach. And the people we’re supposed to be able to trust abuse and manipulate us.
Who wouldn’t be angry about that?
Anger is a natural, healthy response to these wrongs.
But it can feel so overwhelming at times that it can be very hard to hold all the pieces comfortably.
We all face pain and suffering on a spectrum and when we’re at the edge of our scale it can feel like things won’t get better.
You may have a complex range of thoughts on what to do and how to handle your feelings, and often feel like you’re going to overflow.
Often, people have thoughts and feelings they may feel ashamed to open up about with others, out of fear of being rejected, reported, condemned, or ridiculed.
Anger is a normal feeling.
Know this:
No matter who you are, where you are and what you’re doing, your emotions are valid. And your sadness is valid.
There is no way for your emotions to be invalid, because emotions are just that: YOURS.
What you DO with your emotions is what is in your control.
Learning that emotions are a natural reaction to the turbulence of life, and making sure you have safe outlets for your pain are an incredibly important part of learning to manage and heal your pain.
Sometimes, life just sucks and your emotions feel like too much, and that’s ok. We get it, because most of us have been in that position too.
Why do we get angry in the first place? It’s a complex emotion that can stem from a variety of sources.
One of the most common reasons for anger is feeling threatened or powerless. When we feel like we’re not in control of a situation or like our safety is being jeopardized, anger can be a natural response. This could be in response to something as minor as a traffic jam or as major as a physical altercation.
Anger can also stem from past traumas or unresolved emotional pain. If you’ve been hurt in the past, it can be easy to feel triggered by situations that remind you of that pain. For example, if you’ve experienced childhood abuse, seeing someone else being mistreated could trigger feelings of anger and helplessness.
Another common cause of anger is feeling disrespected or invalidated. When we feel like our opinions or experiences are being dismissed or ignored, it can be incredibly frustrating and hurtful. This could happen in a personal relationship or in a larger societal context.
It’s important to note that anger isn’t always a “negative” emotion. In fact, sometimes anger can be a motivating force for positive change. If you see an injustice in the world, feeling anger can propel you to take action and make a difference.
However, it’s also important to learn how to manage our anger in a healthy way. Uncontrolled anger can lead to destructive behavior and damage relationships. Learning healthy coping mechanisms, such as deep breathing or talking to a therapist, can help us manage our anger in a constructive way.
